pleasantries.... (just sayin)

So while scrubbing away this evening- I was of course doing a lot of thinking..after having a very sad conversation with my friend, it really made me think about our role as mothers/ wives. We do so much for our families. To what cost and how far does it go?  I know the dynamics of each family is different, some rely on the mothers/wives to do everything . Where some both parents pitch into help(my house), and also some have children old enough to do chores.
Most of us take this role very seriously! My heart goes out to the Mothers/wives who have to do everything. They have a lot on their shoulders! Worrying  about the kids, meals, cleaning and LAUNDRY which is a job itself- to keep up on!! The list goes on and on, the well being of the children, making sure they are raised right- have manors- know how to treat people, keeping up on school work, showers,  trying to spend quality time,and getting everyone ready for bed, still it's never over --Never!!  Did I mention that a lot of these women have jobs and still are "responsible" for these chores, they have to get it done no matter what!!
      No wonder they're walking around exhausted . Not knowing which direction to go. Not really sure who they are...putting themselves last.  Forgetting what it is like to be a happy person.  I'm not saying happy mom/wife person- I am saying a happy soul.  The core person,  the one that is always there with you. (I hope I am making sense)Because to be a truly happy person it takes work-  personal work, spiritual work-physical work--work, work, work!!! Where can she find the time for that? Is it even important? Probably in most cases not really.  It's almost like being a forced choice for you to put yourself  last, and your family first. Hoping you don't build to much resentment -and at the same time get some appreciation.  A kind word from your husband,  thank u from your child, a hug, date , nice card- ANYTHING!!
  My same friend in a past conversations referred to the small things -the small things are very, very important, because when they don't happen -it becomes a big thing- big things lead to a  truly worn down soul ,unhappy person- with bitterness in their  heart. Not so forgiving, or maybe I should say forgetting!  Resentments build and now it is toxic... when if maybe a little help was given and mom had some time to work on herself the whole household would run smoother and everyone would be that much happier which would be a chain reaction that spread to each of us because we are all connected!!!